Depression is a Real Drag – Try these Tips to Help Understand Your Mentally Ill Friend



Depression is horrible.  I have said I would rather be manic then depressed any day of the week.  This cloak of darkness can hang on for days, weeks and even months.  It is hard to live life as it is without feeling like a black cloud is hanging over your head day in and day out.

I once had an episode that lasted for eight months.  I was in the worst shape ever.  I even got suicidal.  Function?  What the hell is that?  There was no motivation to do anything; I wanted to sleep all the time.

People have good intentions, but majority of the time they do not know how to communicate with someone who has this melancholy illness.  Below are tips on how you can better understand your friend who has this mental illness.

It’s Not about You

Many times the friend of a the person with the illness will take the change in mood personally.  They think the mentally ill friend’s sudden change in demeanor is a result of something they did.  Your friend’s dull mood has nothing to do with you.

It Shows itself in many Ways

Most people in the general public think depression is when someone is sad all the time.  The moods looks different on everybody who has the mental illness.  Your spouse may have zero motivation; a diminished interest in activities that she once enjoyed; and low libido.  Someone else may have something entirely different.


The Power of Depression

Try to Understand the Seriousness of the Illness

Someone might have difficulty doing daily activities.  What is easy for you is like climbing Mt. Everest to your co-worker.  So, give them some slack.  They are not lazy.  They can barely breathe under the weight of the illness.

Be There How They Need You to Be

They might just want you to listen, so listen.  They might want you to just be there holding their hand.  Follow their lead.


What other tips would you add to this list?  Write your tips in the comment section below or email me.

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