Some people come and go in our lives while some go from stranger to friend. There is a special lady that I would like to shine the spotlight on for her sweet friendship and courage.
A Buffet for the Senses
Today was my salon day. I love going to the salon. It is a buffet for the senses. They have wall-to-wall windows on three big walls. So much natural light comes shining in. I need to tell you the natural light makes it hard to be in a sour mood. I enjoy taking in everything from the wicker chairs with pretty cushions to the regal wooden stations all around the shop.
There is always music playing that is upbeat. On one particular visit, they had 80’s music jamming from the speakers. I was in heaven! I’m always asked if I want something to drink by either my stylist or the ladies at the front desk. I was parched and asked for a Diet Coke. Definitely refreshing. Today I smelled lilac at the station where my stylist works. She has a cute little lilac tree sitting on the shelf. The pleasant aroma reminded me of spring. And I smiled.
The ambiance is not the only reason why I like coming to Fusion Salon located in Westport Village in Louisville, Kentucky. My stylist Sam Moreland, is what makes my visit all the more special.
A Courageous Person Spotlight
Sam is one of the most courageous people I know. And one of her courageous reasons is she too has bipolar disorder. We became friends almost instantaneously at my first hair appointment. She is always willing to answer questions I might have of her experience with the mental illness. Sam has come to be like the big sister I never had.
We often branch into various conversations. Sam talks about her many adventures with her friends and her partner as well as her dachshunds while I talk about my writing, home life, and my dogs.
I never feel judged, by Sam or put down, feel stupid, too young, too inexperienced, or unworthy. Sam is a rare friend that I treasure.
This particular visit, I brought up my struggle with my bipolar cycles. I described one cycle that involves my writing. There are times when I am unable to post anything from my blog to social media. I am usually mentally ill and/or physically sick and definitely uncreative. She has given me advice on what to do when this happens. This time, I think it stuck to the right places in my handicap brain.
I asked her about getting through a mixed episode or depression. Subsequently, I asked her how she did it. Sam said I just push through it. My friend said something like, “there is something to be said about the phrase fake it till you make it”. She spoke with such grit-like tenacity. I remember thinking, I want that too!
This Bipolar Person can be Amazing
Let me explain how this makes her so amazing. Having a mental illness is like no other experience on earth. You often feel lonely, frustrated, and tired of fighting to live on most days for some.
I remember dreaming about being a hair stylist one day – but it was a pie-in-the-sky dream for me. I do not have steady hands due to medicine, so I would never be able to give a good haircut. A stylist needs to be able to stand for long periods of time. At this point in my life, I can’t really do it without experiencing edema.
To be a top notch stylist, I would need to appear to be approachable to my clients. I have to admit, my moods fluctuate a lot on any given day. Due to the ADD, I bore easily because I lose attention. In order to be a professional stylist, I would need to be very attentive to my clients.
So, as you can imagine how amazed I am by Sam. I have never had a bad haircut. She wears cute shoes and doesn’t seem to mind standing on her feet. When Sam is feeling quiet and withdrawn because of the bipolar, she will politely tell me that she may be on the quiet-side and to please do not take it personally. When she does reveal her quietness, she is never less-than a professional. Sam also has ADHD. She does an outstanding job as a fabulous listener and a good friend. So, as you can imagine how amazed I am by Sam!
A Good Friend Understands
Whenever we share each other’s bipolar struggles, I know she is someone who has been there, done that, and has the t-shirt to show for it. While she is wise, she is not proud. She is down-to-earth and the type of friend you want by your side for the roller coaster ride we call life.
Concerning my writing struggles, she understands. Sam is a blogger, too. She is never short of encouragement and ideas for writing. Before I left the salon today, she suggested to me to Messenger her if I need help or some inspiration.
Truthfully, we all need a friend like Sam in our lives. You know, she/he doesn’t have to be your stylist, but that’s a good place to start. LOL!
Call to Action
Do you have a special friend in your life whom you would like to place the spotlight on? Someone who is the poster child for courage? I invite you to put the spotlight on them. Email me and tell me about him/her. I would love for you to be a guest writer on my blog.
There is so much negativity in our world. We need some real-life courageous men and women to look to when the rubber meets the road in our own lives.
The person does not have to be diagnosed with a mental illness. However, they need to have some challenge in their life that has proven their courage. This is a person whom you want to hug them with your words or pat them on the back for their grit-like tenacity.
Sam told me to write from the heart and that is what I did. It makes all the difference in the world. firstname.lastname@example.org